by request....
so, lately my girlfriends and i have been talking about men, relationships. which we really dont do all the time like a lot of girls (we can always find something better to talk about-tee-hee.)
let me say right now-if you are a guy and i know you, this is probably not referring to you. so, no bitter comments or hurt feelings my sweet male friends who i adore. i would also like to say right now-i love men. i am not, nor have i ever been a "man-hater." i feel sorry for women who just "hate" men. as friends or as lovers they are different, yet complimentary to us. people who run around saying men are good for nothing are fools. as cool as we may be, we have not figured out how to reproduce on our own and without them this whole thing called life would have been over before it got along too far. i just feel the need strongly to express this, because although this blog is a strong rant about a certain type of man i would never want anyone to mistake the mad love and respect i have for most men.
this may get a bit dark because i have very strong feelings about it, so hang on.
we were talking about the different types of guys and how they make you feel, as a woman-as a person. and i came up with a very unflattering, but truthful analogy about a type of man.
there is a man that is so intimidating but desirable that he makes you feel like puppy about to piss yourself. even typing the words makes me feel sick. i do not like this man and what he represents. he genuinely doesnt like women. this man never tries to give a woman what she needs causing that sick, nervous feeling around him. every woman has had one of these guys in her life. i think of all bad relationships this one is the worst. it tears down your ego and puts you on a rollercoaster of highs and lows depending on his moods. i think the thing that snags is the sad idea of which i will admit to being guilty of before-"if i can make HIM love me, then im a really good person." i have left this kind of thinking behind. its such a perfect self-defeating cycle because the sad secret is you will never get that kind of man to love you, really love you. i never want to be with a man that makes me feel that way again. i had a dream of my "partner" and he was so strong, but his strength didnt make me feel weak. it made me feel empowered. i know now, i see so clearly what is right me in love. i will recognize him by that feeling when he comes along. i cant say all the mistakes are behind me, but i will never be that shaking puppy again.
let me say right now-if you are a guy and i know you, this is probably not referring to you. so, no bitter comments or hurt feelings my sweet male friends who i adore. i would also like to say right now-i love men. i am not, nor have i ever been a "man-hater." i feel sorry for women who just "hate" men. as friends or as lovers they are different, yet complimentary to us. people who run around saying men are good for nothing are fools. as cool as we may be, we have not figured out how to reproduce on our own and without them this whole thing called life would have been over before it got along too far. i just feel the need strongly to express this, because although this blog is a strong rant about a certain type of man i would never want anyone to mistake the mad love and respect i have for most men.
this may get a bit dark because i have very strong feelings about it, so hang on.
we were talking about the different types of guys and how they make you feel, as a woman-as a person. and i came up with a very unflattering, but truthful analogy about a type of man.
there is a man that is so intimidating but desirable that he makes you feel like puppy about to piss yourself. even typing the words makes me feel sick. i do not like this man and what he represents. he genuinely doesnt like women. this man never tries to give a woman what she needs causing that sick, nervous feeling around him. every woman has had one of these guys in her life. i think of all bad relationships this one is the worst. it tears down your ego and puts you on a rollercoaster of highs and lows depending on his moods. i think the thing that snags is the sad idea of which i will admit to being guilty of before-"if i can make HIM love me, then im a really good person." i have left this kind of thinking behind. its such a perfect self-defeating cycle because the sad secret is you will never get that kind of man to love you, really love you. i never want to be with a man that makes me feel that way again. i had a dream of my "partner" and he was so strong, but his strength didnt make me feel weak. it made me feel empowered. i know now, i see so clearly what is right me in love. i will recognize him by that feeling when he comes along. i cant say all the mistakes are behind me, but i will never be that shaking puppy again.
posted by lightaqua at 2:02 PM
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7 Comments:
when a man's energy is of that sort, you know, dominating, self absorbinig and disrespectful, the best thing to do is to imagine them shitting on the pot...no more pissing puppy...thank you for writing about this...and can you also write more about this type of man? I would love to hear...
oooh-good one. thanks for the laugh!!! i may write more about this type of fellow later and for sure about other types :) (have to give the people what they want)
i just dont like to give too much energy at once to the stuff that rips me up.
by the way-who is this? friend or new friend?
its me, the friend named Mich
till the day i die, i doubt i will ever forget the 'puppy pissing itself' alalogy. I can just see myself at like 70 telling someone that. Oh my.
The big question is: if you arn't a puppy pissing yourself w/ guys, is it any fun?
Jessie
its better than fun, its a warm joy that travels through you leaving only peace and contentment. i would take that over nerve-wracking, nail-biting, fear and anxiety any day!!! bring on the soulmate! im ready...
until the soulmate comes along I decided its better to have 17 3 week long relationships instead of one year of monogamy, pissing and heartache...STRT, short term relationship theory...just take samples until you meet the soul that is your home...Mich
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